Love you. Miss you.

Dear Diary,

Today, I have a sad.

I miss my sweetheart. My darling. My dollface.

I miss Mike.

You see, dear diary, we came to Calgary to be with my family for Easter and I decided to stay a week or so to visit more with my family. Mike hasn’t even been gone 30 hours yet, and I’ve been in tears on and off missing him.

Maybe it’s just me or maybe it’s the baby-mones, but whatever it is, it’s AWFUL! It’s always nice to be missed, but it’s never nice to be the one missing someone.

I loves him.

Some people, most people, may say that I’m way too romance driven and to them I say, screw you. I like being romantical. I love love. I really do. It’s the most chaotic and calm, crazy and wonderful, complex and simple thing in the world. Many desire the true form of it and very few get to really live it. I’m one of those few.

Mike never wanted to marry or have children before he met me. I knew this before we dated, yet something still drew me to him. A force stronger than any Star Wars movie could ever create. Marriage and children were always important to me and something I knew I wanted, yet the moment I met him, I knew that I may need to keep that on the back burner for some time. And I was ok with that.

It didn’t take very long when Mike told me that our relationship was different. I was different. He was different. And he said he knew that it wasn’t until meeting me that he knew marriage and children were a good idea. Simply because I was “the one”.

Being somebody’s “one”, is a very special role. You have to cherish it. Nurture it. And give as much back to it as you get. Which is exactly what I do.

We’re now engaged and expecting our first baby this September. This baby of ours has no idea how much his/her Mommy and Daddy love eachother. How much we care for them already. And how we’re one of those lucky couples that everyone gets jelly of.

Mike is my happy place. I care for him in a way that I for reals, can’t even describe. And if that makes me “too” sappy and romantic, then I’ll take it 😉

xoxo

Becky

Somebody’s Princess

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Me as a tiny little lamb.

I’m a romantical sort. One of those girls that used to marry her Barbies off to her brothers Ninja Turtles and hope that one day, she would find someone as slick as Raphael or as cool as Casey Jones. I had not only lines, but entire scenes from Pretty in Pink and Dirty Dancing memorized. I dreamed of one day, becoming Princess Buttercup from The Princess Bride. I lived and breathed romance. Don’t get me wrong, I adored all things dinosaurs and Batman as well but since I was little, I dreamed of finding my prince.

Well almost two years ago, I found him.

I spend some of my posts talking about Mike and this is going to be another one! Yay for you. If you get sickly at all from reading this mush, don’t say I didn’t warn you. 

I’ve been visiting family most of this month, 4 hours away from Mike. With the exception of a few days over the course of a couple weekends, he and I have been apart the whole time. He’s coming to get me this weekend actually, so that is very exciting. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder, and I think we needed this time apart to truly miss one another. I think it’s important in a relationship to have your alone time, because it makes it all the more special when you’re together.

Not many people can say that their partner would do absolutely anything and everything for them, no matter what. But I know that I can. Today he drew my portrait. To some, it’s not anything special. To me, it meant the world. I’m not sure how he’s going to feel about me posting his work, especially as he claims it’s unfinished, but I wanted to show off my sweethearts talent.

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As you can see, he’s pretty dang wonderful.

 

 

Another thing he did for me, was tell me a story. You see, the last little while I’ve been running on 3 or 4 hours of sleep every night. I simply, can’t sleep. I think I have the insomnias. Anyways, so back in the day, Mike would make up little stories to make me laugh or help me sleep so tonight I called him and asked him to do that. And he did it, without any hesitation. It was 2am, he was tired, yet he still sat on the phone with me for over 30 minutes, making up THE most ridiculous story about a robot, a chimney salesman and an underwater house. It’s now almost 3:30am and although I am still awake, I am beyond grateful and appreciative that he tried. And he made a lame yet hilarious story just for me, so I am one happy girl.

Mike and I have had many, many ups and very few minor downs, but one thing remains the same. The past two years have been the most amazing ones I’ve ever experienced with another person. We are each others rock. Each others world. Each others happy place. I love him more and more with each passing day, and I really couldn’t imagine someone better suited for me. We’re both kids at heart, cuddle addicts and the most sarcastic couple you will ever have the pleasure (and pain) of knowing. And we love each other with everything that we have.

So when I think back on those times I dreamed of being someones princess, little did I know that I would be his.

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I Love You Sweetheart. Much.

xoxo

Becky

 

 

 

Romance: Till Unfriending Do Us Part

I recently read an article regarding relationships and Facebook, and it really got me thinking about how much the dating world has changed since social networking sites have popped up. We used to live in a world where person meets person. Person asks person out. People date. And people either stay together or break up. Simple, right? Right! Now, with Myspace, Twitter, dating sites and especially Facebook, all of our relationships have gone viral, it would seem. Everyone knows everyone’s business and everyone has an opinion about it.

My boyfriend and I were friends first, added each other to Facebook, and occasionally talked and had funny convos here and there. Nothing crazy. We lived 4 hours apart so that made it easy to not think too much into it and stay funny Facebook friends. But because of Facebook, we finally realized how perfect we were for each other and fast forward through alot of ups and some very minor downs, we’ve never been happier. And I’ll never forget the day we “made it official” on Facebook. Mostly because it’s on our timelines FOREVER, but also because I remember that it was infact a “big deal” to announce our love for one another online. Which is absolutely ridiculous. But very true. With this, came jealousy and questions from exes and some now former friends, of course. To which I would say to them, get a life and stop being a peanut butter and jellyfish over mine.

But that’s what social networking is. A giant pot of jealousy, insecurity and craziness. Facebook does ruin lives sometimes. I just know how to find the humor in it. And I hope you can too…

Romance: Till Unfriending Do Us Part

Looking for Love!

Remember privacy? Two people could meet, fall in love, and start a life together, and only their families and perhaps closest friends would know. Well, that’s a thing of the past—at least for the 1 billion (and counting) people on Facebook. “It makes our relationships transparent in a way they’ve never been before,” says Rosanna Guadagno, a social psychologist at the National Science Foundation who has studied online behavior. A slew of recent findings demonstrates that the ubiquitous social networking giant is now a factor and often a complication at every stage of a relationship.

Nice to E-Meet You

If you like someone on Facebook, it might be worth a shot in the flesh: A growing body of research suggests that people are roughly the same on- and offline. One study in Psychological Science reports that when people rate others’ personalities based only on their Facebook profiles, the assessments tend to be an accurate reflection of reality. But superficial things manipulate our perceptions: Israeli researchers found that when a man is holding a guitar in his profile photo, women are three times more likely to respond positively to a flirtatious introduction.

It’s Complicated

The wealth of information on a typical profile can be dangerous. “Being on Facebook exposes us to information about our partner that we may not otherwise be privy to and that lacks context,” notes Amy Muise, a social psychologist at the University of Toronto. A recent study led by Muise found that the more time people spend on Facebook, the more jealous of their partners they are likely to be. (Whether Facebook “creeping” leads to jealousy or jealousy leads to “creeping” is difficult to tease apart, but the authors suggest that it’s most likely a bit of both.)

Status Update Anxiety

In the 1963 movie musical Bye Bye Birdie, one of the central scenes has all the teenagers in town frantically calling each other with the news that the two main characters are “going steady.” Now? One simple click, and everyone knows. “Commitment is no longer a private relationship agreement,” observes Muise, and that can lead to very public problems. A recent study from the University of Wisconsin–Madison found that disagreements within couples over the perilous “relationship status” field were associated with lower relationship satisfaction for women.

Goodbye for Never

Cutting ties was once as easy as burning a pile of love letters and shipping a box of left-behind miscellany, but breaking up on Facebook adds a new layer of complexity. “I’ve heard people say over and over again: ‘A breakup is not official until it happens on Facebook,’” notes Guadagno—but even then, it’s hard to make a clean break. About 75 percent of those surveyed in Muise’s study indicated that they were inclined to add ex-partners as friends; another study found that a third of users actively keep tabs on their exes, although such behavior is associated with more distress and difficulty moving on.

Peace, love & sarcasm,

Becky